It's important to create a clear set of household rules so your children know what's allowed and what is off limits. Establishing clear rules is a simple way to reduce behavior problems and create consistency with your discipline. Set the rules using a positive spin. Try to word the rules in a positive way when possible. As the members of the household also grow and change, don’t forget to adjust the rules. Note about your own mistakes. Even adults break the rules sometimes. Your household rules should be rules that everyone follows, including you. So don't include rules you don't plan to follow.
Whatever your child's age, it's important to be consistent when it comes to discipline. If parents don't stick to the rules and consequences they decide, their kids aren't likely to do either. It's important to not spank, hit, or slap a child of any age. Babies and toddlers were not able yet to understand the connection between their behavior and physical punishment. They will only feel the pain of the hit. Rather than teaching kids how to change their behavior, spanking makes them fearful of their parents and teaches them to avoid getting caught. You can help your child behave well by tuning in to his feelings, changing the environment, distracting him and planning ahead for challenging situations.
Family rules are designed to clearly describe the expectations in your home, but in a more detailed way. It doesn’t have to be complicated, and you don’t need to feel like a strict army sergeant to enforce them. But, house rules are key to helping your family to have less stress, less conflict, yelling, and to run smoothly. The house rules we have in our family are appropriate for children of all ages from toddlers to teenagers and everything in between. Deciding on what rules to have starts with being clear on what you want the priorities to be in your family. Also take into account the behavior problems you and your kids struggle with. These could be fighting between siblings, areas of disobedience, or a general attitude problem that can be a source of stress. Having house rules for your family is an essential way to make sure that everyone is on the same page, expectations are clear, and conflict can be moderate.